So this week, after a heated exchange between my gf and I…I decided to begin the process of coming out. I don’t have a grand detailed plan on how to do it, but like Nike, i need to “just do it”. So thus far, I have told 2 people, my son and my son’s father. Two people I have left to tell are my grandmom and my dad. So here’s the story.
My son…
Driving my 7-year old son to school I told him that Nesha (my gf) and I are going to be together for a very long time. I said do you understand that? Yes, he said. Then I said I love Nesha very much. He said “I know”. Then he says, is Nesha your girlfriend? I said, yes, she is. He says “ooooooooooh….ya’ll are going to get married” proceeded by a few giggles. And that was that. He is fine with it and he loves Nesha, so as long as she isn’t going anywhere he’s happy.
My son’s father (aka Stupid)…
So I am driving to work, sitting in DC traffic…so I call my son’s dad to break the news. No answer…damn. I knew I needed to do it before I went to work or I wouldn’t do it all. So I sent him a text message…hell, he really isn’t even worth the phone call anyway I figured.
My text: “so you know, I’m gay” (straight to the point)
His text: “duuuhhh”
His text: “i still love you and just figured this was the reason we don’t really get along as much as we could/can.
My text: “No you just get on my nerves”
His text “Can you talk”
By this time I am at work, and I call him from my desk phone.
Him: So, you don’t miss the dick?
Me: I am about to hang up now
Him: How about a menage a…
Me: Click…dial tone on his end.
His text: I was just joking…so…is it the lady who lives with you?
Me: Yup.
Him: What’s her name?
That was the end of our exchange…I had done what I set out to do. I assume he will spread the word to his side of the family, who I have become close to over the years. We will see what happens from that. Now on to daddy and grandma…
